PROCESS OPTIONS:

 

Below is a graphic showing the process options of collaborative method and mediation as compared to traditional attorney negotiation.  I provide the services listed on this page, which include collaborative method, mediation, drafting of documents and certified divorce financial analysis.

 Collaborative Method:

 

What is Collaborative Family Law?

 

Collaborative Family Law is a method of settling cases without court intervention.   It blends the benefits of each client being represented by an attorney with the cooperative face-to-face negotiation of mediation.  Clients, attorneys and other collaborative team professionals assigned to a case sign a Collaborative Participation Agreement that details their commitment to this non-adversarial process.

 

In Collaborative Family Law two clients and two lawyers work as a team to generate options for a mutually acceptable, comprehensive settlement.  Where appropriate, other collaboratively trained professionals join the team to provide added expertise and counseling.  These collaborative professionals can include a facilitator, coaches, parenting specialists and financial analysts.

 

Both clients enable collaboration by sharing all knowledge each has that bears on the process and by treating the other with honesty and respect. This enables trust and assures fair dealing. By participating in the process, both clients are agreeing that they are willing to:

 

  • Achieve a fair and comprehensive settlement without resorting, or threatening to resort, to litigation.

 

  • Voluntarily disclose all information relevant to reaching a settlement.

 

  • Make a good faith effort to look for resolutions that meet the needs of all members of the family.

 

  • Deal honestly with each other and to communicate in a respectful manner.

 

And, both clients are agreeing that they do not want to turn their decision-making over to a judge or endure the trauma and expense of litigation, or threatened litigation, and that they want to work amicably to reach a settlement.

 

 

 

The Meeting Format

 

The process typically starts with each client meeting with his or her own attorney.  The two attorneys then meet for a planning session to lay the groundwork and set the agenda for the first team meeting.  Then each attorney meets with his or her client to prepare for the first team meeting.

 

At the first team meeting clients and attorneys sign the Collaborative Participation Agreement – an enforceable, binding contract. The parties and attorneys sign this contract agreeing not to go to court.  If the case later goes to court, the collaborative attorneys will withdraw and help the parties transition to litigating attorneys.  The newly established team will also address the issues of immediate concern like how bills will be paid, and, if you have children, what your parenting plan will be during the negotiation period.

 

Meetings are usually 2 hours in length, scheduled about 2 or 3 weeks apart.  They generally end with “homework” assignments being given to each participant in preparation for the next session.

The team meeting format continues until a complete settlement has been reached, but the format may be changed based on the needs and agreements of the team.

 

 

The Process

 

Collaborative Family Law is not about winning or losing; the goal of an agreed upon settlement is to permit both clients to achieve their objectives to the greatest extent possible taking into consideration the resources available.  Clients are encouraged to participate directly in the process, and with the assistance of their counsel, are expected to identify and assert his or her own respective interests.

 

The collaborative process cannot eliminate concerns about the disharmony that led to divorce or the dispute being addressed.  However, each participant is expected to treat the other with respect, and to listen to the other’s perspective, interests and concerns.  This sometimes requires that clients let go of the past in order to focus on the future.

 

 

Collaboration requires each client and each professional to take a reasoned position on all issues. Where positions differ, everyone uses their best efforts to create proposals that meet the fundamental needs of both clients, and, if necessary, to compromise to reach a settlement on all issues. This process encourages creative solutions that are not available in court, and lets you control the outcome so important family decisions are not left to someone who doesn’t know you or understand your family.

 

The goal is to preserve the relationship between clients and within the family by creating a respectful environment that sets the tone for open communication and reduced conflict in the future. Each client makes a commitment to find a way to resolve the disputed issues in a manner that is also acceptable to the other, even if the process of doing so is difficult.  What clients can realistically hope to do is trade the antagonistic feelings that result from a divorce or other family law battle, for a genuine sense of resolution.

 

   Children

 

If children are involved, parents, attorneys and any counselors or child specialists commit to reaching amicable resolutions to issues that promote the best interests of the children and the family as a whole.  Parents commit to making an effort to insulate children from involvement in the parents’ disputes, and to encouraging a caring, loving and involved relationship between the children and the other parent.

 

The collaboration process provides an opportunity for clients to reach a resolution with enhanced understanding, respect, and continued cooperation in child-raising.

 

 

 

MEDIATION

 

What is Mediation?

 

 

As a mediator I help both sides reach a voluntary settlement. I do that by facilitating your conversation about the issues that need to be decided.  I help you gather and organize the necessary information, help you illicit and express your interests, encourage brainstorming of options to meet your interests and analyze the benefits and detriments of the various options.  We do this in a series of meetings until settlement is reached.

 

 

Depending on the issues of your case and the complexity of your case, other professionals such as financial planners, coaches, child experts, and attorneys will be brought into the mediation process to help educate you and assist you in reaching an amicable agreement.

 

 

Key Qualities of the Mediation Process

 

 

Voluntary - You can leave at any time for any reason, or no reason.

 

 

Collaborative - You are encouraged to work together to reach what you perceive to be your best agreement.

 

 

Controlled - You have complete decision-making power and a veto over each and every provision of any mediated agreement. Nothing can be imposed on you.

 

 

Confidential - Mediation is confidential, to the extent you desire and agree, with only limited exceptions. Mediation discussions and all materials developed for a mediation are not admissible in court or other contested proceeding, except for a finalized and signed mediated agreement.  Confidentiality in mediation may be waived in writing, although the mediator may retain his or her own ability to refuse to testify in any contested case. Your mediator is obligated to describe any exceptions to this general confidentiality of mediation.

 

 

Informed - The mediation process offers a full opportunity to obtain and incorporate legal and other professional information and advice. Mutually acceptable professionals can be retained. Professional advice is never determinative in mediation. The parties always retain decision-making power. Mediators are bound to encourage parties to obtain legal counsel and to advise them to have any mediated agreement involving legal issues reviewed by independent legal counsel prior to signing. Whether legal advice is sought is, ultimately, a decision of each mediation participant.

 

 

Impartial, Neutral, Balanced and Safe - The mediator has an equal and balanced responsibility to assist each mediating party and cannot favor the interests of any one party over another, nor should the mediator favor a particular result in the mediation. Your mediator is ethically obligated to acknowledge any substantive bias on substantive issues in discussion. The mediator's role is to ensure that parties reach agreements in a voluntarily and informed manner, and not as a result of coercion or intimidation.                                                    

 

KITCHEN TABLE

If you have already come to agreement on your own around the kitchen table,  I can prepare the pleadings and stipulated judgment for filing with the court. Knowledge of the necessary provisions and considerations can minimize errors and unintended consequences, to make sure that the agreement is memorialized properly, legally and that it works.

CERTIFIED DIVORCE FINANCIAL ANALYST

As a certified divorce financial analyst I can assist you in reaching a financial settlement that reflects the needs of both parties and the family. This includes child support, spousal support and property settlement.  I can help you gather and understand financial information , brainstorm and examine options developed during the mediation or collaborative process.  Services include: 

  • Helping you gather relevant financial information
  • Helping you identify needs
  • Helping you understand the financial information and various options developed
  • Develop realistic budgets that reflect accurate future needs
  • Provide long-term cash flow analysis
  • Illustrate potential long-term consequences of various settlement options

 

LEGAL CONSULTATION:
I also provide legal consultation and review for parties using other mediators or professionals and who want a legal review of the proposed agreement.
 
Free Initial Consultation to Review Process Options.
These processes are fluid and can be used creatively to meet your particular situation.  The variety of options may be confusing, so call to make an appointment for a free initial consultation to review your situation and how these options may best fit your needs.
 

Rates:

Hourly rate for  legal consultation and collaborative family law:  $200.

 

Hourly rate for medation and divorce financial analysis: $175.

 

Flat fee for drafting complete set of pleadings for divorce:  $750.

 

 

Cullen Mediation & Collaborative Law, PC
Serving Lake Oswego and the Portland Area 503-867-1763
 
For e-mail and directions see the Contact page.
 

 

Divorce Mediation
& Collaborative Law

Lake Oswego, Oregon
 

503-867-1763